Every child responds to divorce differently. Your child may need professional support processing the divorce if you notice any of the following behaviors:
- more anxious than usual
- heart racing
- racing thoughts
- anger outbursts, crying spells, meltdowns (their reactions may not match the seriousness of the situation)
- a sense of hopelessness or helplessness or increased pessimism
- regression (bedwetting, soiling pants, seeking a former lovie or beloved toy, thumb sucking)
- clinginess and/or separation anxiety
- sleep problems (sleeping more or less than usual, frequent nighttime wake-ups and/or nightmares, newfound fear of the dark/avoidance of bedtime)
- refusing school or other activities
- trouble with transitions
If you’re recently divorced, or in the process of ending your marriage, you may notice your child/teen presenting with any of the behaviors listed above. If you are seeking therapy for your child/teen, it is my role to help him/her manage the emotions that are involved with the divorce and the changes in routine, living arrangement and family relationships that follow suit.
It is not my role to assess or advise on custody arrangements or visitation. I am not trained to evaluate a guardian’s capacity to parent. I require both custodial parents to be in agreement that their child participate in therapy. If this is not possible, call me for a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit. Both parents must attend the first appointment. When you attend, please bring a photo of your child, and the most up to date custody agreement.